Recognizing the symptoms in your partner as being an alcoholic are not always quite so clear. In fact discovering your partner's drinking habits is nearly as stressful for you as it is for him coming to terms with alcoholism.
Anyway, first on the list is to discover any particular pattern in your partner's drinking habits. For example, Is drinking a daily event? or is maybe just the a weekend habit? Do they tend to hit the bottle after a sudden row? Or would you say their stressful job is always a good excuse for a drink or two?
As we all know, an occasional social drink and drinking to forget a stressful situation are two separate entities. Someone who is clearly drinking to relieve stress is to be considered a potential alcoholic. If you spouse is consistently having to have a few drinks after work just to relax, most likely they are having alcohol dependency problems.
Something that most alcoholics have in common is to always put the blame on other people for any problem they may have in their lives. It could be a ruthless boss, a nagging partner or just plain old money to mention just a few examples, but the result is always the same as the only solutions possibles seems to be to drink their problems away. So at this point what you need to be asking yourself is does your partner do the same in facing up to his or her problems.
Alcoholics tend to ignore their family and the problems associated with handling the day to day tasks of raising a family. Do you feel that you are needing to take up the slack to make the bills, fix your home, or take care of the children? Take a close look at where your spouse is failing for you and your family and see if it can be traced back to alcohol usage.
There are many surveys out there to study, articles and books to read, and programs to watch that state if you answer theses questions as yes, then alcoholism is present. Unfortunately, every situation is different. Not only do you need to look at how much is being drank, but also what other behavior is causing problems in your family life. There is no easy answer but there is a lot of help for the spouse and family if they take the time to look for it.
The conclusion to such a terrible situation to be in is that you are not the only person in or who has been in the same situation and that your way out is through mutual guidance and support. You can start to find support from other people who have suffered the same as you have on the stopDrinkingAdvice.org blog and you will soon realize that you have already taken the first step for you and your spouse.
Anyway, first on the list is to discover any particular pattern in your partner's drinking habits. For example, Is drinking a daily event? or is maybe just the a weekend habit? Do they tend to hit the bottle after a sudden row? Or would you say their stressful job is always a good excuse for a drink or two?
As we all know, an occasional social drink and drinking to forget a stressful situation are two separate entities. Someone who is clearly drinking to relieve stress is to be considered a potential alcoholic. If you spouse is consistently having to have a few drinks after work just to relax, most likely they are having alcohol dependency problems.
Something that most alcoholics have in common is to always put the blame on other people for any problem they may have in their lives. It could be a ruthless boss, a nagging partner or just plain old money to mention just a few examples, but the result is always the same as the only solutions possibles seems to be to drink their problems away. So at this point what you need to be asking yourself is does your partner do the same in facing up to his or her problems.
Alcoholics tend to ignore their family and the problems associated with handling the day to day tasks of raising a family. Do you feel that you are needing to take up the slack to make the bills, fix your home, or take care of the children? Take a close look at where your spouse is failing for you and your family and see if it can be traced back to alcohol usage.
There are many surveys out there to study, articles and books to read, and programs to watch that state if you answer theses questions as yes, then alcoholism is present. Unfortunately, every situation is different. Not only do you need to look at how much is being drank, but also what other behavior is causing problems in your family life. There is no easy answer but there is a lot of help for the spouse and family if they take the time to look for it.
The conclusion to such a terrible situation to be in is that you are not the only person in or who has been in the same situation and that your way out is through mutual guidance and support. You can start to find support from other people who have suffered the same as you have on the stopDrinkingAdvice.org blog and you will soon realize that you have already taken the first step for you and your spouse.
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